There are some male writers who write great Jack/Ianto sex scenes. X Tricks, Holding off and Sam Storyteller all come to mind. I think some of the writers you are referring to should read them.
I work in sexual health, so talk to men a lot about sex, and some gay men have a lot of anal sex. However not all of them do, and I agree that the norm has become J/I doing it a lot. The scissoring fingers thing is ridiculous, although fingering is a very popular activity in and of itself, nothing wrong with that. I don't quite get why there is so much talk about preparation, why mention lube either? Surely the reader should fill in the gaps, and if they can't, well their problem.
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Date: 2008-12-08 10:05 pm (UTC)I work in sexual health, so talk to men a lot about sex, and some gay men have a lot of anal sex. However not all of them do, and I agree that the norm has become J/I doing it a lot. The scissoring fingers thing is ridiculous, although fingering is a very popular activity in and of itself, nothing wrong with that. I don't quite get why there is so much talk about preparation, why mention lube either? Surely the reader should fill in the gaps, and if they can't, well their problem.