I think TPTB want a long-term loving gay relationship without actually having to bother portraying a long-term loving gay relationship.

Good point!

As for the lack of show bible, I'm thinking maybe that's a symptom, rather than the cause? As in, if TPTB had an overall direction in which they wanted to take the show, including any relationship stuff, then they'd damn well make sure they have a bible. But apparently they are fine with taking the show where it develops "organically," or however it was they put it.

And yes, keep the argument separate from the speaker, very good advice, thanks!