i too came from torch_wood and wanted to weigh in on this :)
i too agree that jack is not the sort of guy that's going to abuse his power of being in charge to get ianto to sleep with him. while jack can sometimes have some interesting ways of going about things, and can be a down right bastard whenever he has to be, he would never EVER use any of the members of his team for his own gain. you can tell from all of the past instances that he loves everyone on the team unconditionally, no matter what they've done (and done to him) in the past. if he didn't love them, then he never would've forgiven ianto for lisa, owen for shooting him, etc etc.
now, i do believe that jack is still a big old flirt that would do anything with a hole. but a lot of his talk is just that...talk. i don't think he would ever act on anything without the consent of the other person/people or put them in an uncomfortable situation. he knows where to draw the line and step back. but i also think that a lot of his flirtatious attitude depends on the company he's in. whenever he's with the doctor is when we see the most of his flirtatious side. whenever he first returned to torchwood, he tried (with the naked wrestling comment) but he didn't get the reaction he was expecting. we really didn't see him being a playful flirt again till reset, whenever martha came in. i think that around the team, he's business before pleasure and tries to keep a tight upper lip to make sure that he gets the respect from the team he deserves. throw people outside of the team into the mix, then all of that goes out the window.
now, when it comes to the jack/ianto relationship, i believe that they are mostly in a fuck buddy sort of relationship. however, ianto definitely has feelings for jack, and jack, deep down, has feelings for ianto. but for the sake of keeping things in order around the Hub, they keep it strictly to sex, some off hand flirting, and maybe even a date every so often. the only way i could ever see an actual relationship working for the two of them would be if one of them leaves torchwood. with neither of them are going to do, so things are going to be casual, no matter how much TPTB (read: the fangirls) want it to happen.
they love each other, but they don't LOVE each other. maybe deep down, but i don't think they would ever come out and admit it. at least, not jack anyway. they're both in a comfortable relationship with what they have going right now, and as long as they're enjoying themselves, then there shouldn't be any need to put any type of label on what they are.
they just are.
(i've obviously put lots of thought into this lol. i'm playing ianto in an rpg and me and the jack-mun had a big old in depth conversation about their relationship and how we interpreted it so that's my story and i'm sticking to it lol.)
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i too agree that jack is not the sort of guy that's going to abuse his power of being in charge to get ianto to sleep with him. while jack can sometimes have some interesting ways of going about things, and can be a down right bastard whenever he has to be, he would never EVER use any of the members of his team for his own gain. you can tell from all of the past instances that he loves everyone on the team unconditionally, no matter what they've done (and done to him) in the past. if he didn't love them, then he never would've forgiven ianto for lisa, owen for shooting him, etc etc.
now, i do believe that jack is still a big old flirt that would do anything with a hole. but a lot of his talk is just that...talk. i don't think he would ever act on anything without the consent of the other person/people or put them in an uncomfortable situation. he knows where to draw the line and step back. but i also think that a lot of his flirtatious attitude depends on the company he's in. whenever he's with the doctor is when we see the most of his flirtatious side. whenever he first returned to torchwood, he tried (with the naked wrestling comment) but he didn't get the reaction he was expecting. we really didn't see him being a playful flirt again till reset, whenever martha came in. i think that around the team, he's business before pleasure and tries to keep a tight upper lip to make sure that he gets the respect from the team he deserves. throw people outside of the team into the mix, then all of that goes out the window.
now, when it comes to the jack/ianto relationship, i believe that they are mostly in a fuck buddy sort of relationship. however, ianto definitely has feelings for jack, and jack, deep down, has feelings for ianto. but for the sake of keeping things in order around the Hub, they keep it strictly to sex, some off hand flirting, and maybe even a date every so often. the only way i could ever see an actual relationship working for the two of them would be if one of them leaves torchwood. with neither of them are going to do, so things are going to be casual, no matter how much TPTB (read: the fangirls) want it to happen.
they love each other, but they don't LOVE each other. maybe deep down, but i don't think they would ever come out and admit it. at least, not jack anyway. they're both in a comfortable relationship with what they have going right now, and as long as they're enjoying themselves, then there shouldn't be any need to put any type of label on what they are.
they just are.
(i've obviously put lots of thought into this lol. i'm playing ianto in an rpg and me and the jack-mun had a big old in depth conversation about their relationship and how we interpreted it so that's my story and i'm sticking to it lol.)