Mmm. I see your point, and am now very interested in part two of the poll :)

thing is ... I have this built-in hatred of cliché questions like 'who is the wife'. It makes me want to scream.
Our world really needs to step out of this silly labelist mentality.

Though, honestly, if people asked me who the wife/husband in my marriage is ... I'd probably answer that he's the wife, and I'm the husband ;)