I just cannot finagle myself into believing that when Ianto looks up to Jack in tears and literally says, "You gave my life meaning again." that you can interpret anything other than crazy deep emotional attachment.

Deep emotional attachment absolutely. How else would you feel about someone who has helped define your life? But I guess I just don't see it as proof of romantic love or being "in love." There are several people who have helped define my life and given it meaning and I would lay down my life more them, but I'm not in love with them.

And, as I said in my own comment, brains does not preclude anyone from falling madly into inadvisable and doomed love. Smarts usually only makes it worse because you know what you're doing while you're doing it, and can't stop yourself.

That I would not argue with. It is all to true. And while I don't feel this relationship has reach that point yet, there is clearly the potential.

I like your icon by the way.