Not in your fandom, so I'd say yes, those are very common in other fandoms, too.
Personally, I'd like to see fingering treated as something really fun rather than as a necessary prelude to buttsex. Fingers are much more...nimble...than penises. Also, fingering + blowjob would be awesome, and I can't even think of the last time I saw that in a slash story.
Personally, as a heterosexual woman--yes, preparation for anal sex is mental. But foreplay is fun, and I would imagine that many gay and bisexual men enjoy foreplay as much as most straight men. And I tend to feel that certain types of slash treat foreplay as a necessary "warm-up" for the buttsex, which I think is kind of unfortunate--personally, I'm not really interested in wham-bam-thank-you-sir smut. So I'm irked by the same cliches, but I think for slightly different reasons.
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Personally, I'd like to see fingering treated as something really fun rather than as a necessary prelude to buttsex. Fingers are much more...nimble...than penises. Also, fingering + blowjob would be awesome, and I can't even think of the last time I saw that in a slash story.
Personally, as a heterosexual woman--yes, preparation for anal sex is mental. But foreplay is fun, and I would imagine that many gay and bisexual men enjoy foreplay as much as most straight men. And I tend to feel that certain types of slash treat foreplay as a necessary "warm-up" for the buttsex, which I think is kind of unfortunate--personally, I'm not really interested in wham-bam-thank-you-sir smut. So I'm irked by the same cliches, but I think for slightly different reasons.