I see what you mean, but I think that part of the problem is that for a lot of people, they aren't going to get it unless you hit them over the head with a Pythonesque 16-ton weight. There are a lot of subtle hints that indicate that Jack's not that sort of guy-- he may have sex with a lot of people, but he doesn't use them for sex.
I think that Fragments is a really good example of a subtle indication that Jack doesn't go for the whole sex toy thing-- and it's a good example of how people don't pick up on that. In that ep, we see Ianto basically offerring himself as Jack's sex toy, the first two times they meet. Jack is a little flattered, but he's essentially not interested. Most people come to the conclusion that by adorning the suit, Ianto became the sort of guy that Jack liked, but that's not actually the case-- Jack rejects him several times while he's wearing the suit, and the change only comes after they laugh together. To me, that said really powerfully that for Jack, that emotional connection is essential. It's not that he needs to be in love with everyone he sleeps with, and he's certainly capable of casual encounters-- it's just that even with the most casual encounter, I think he needs to be in touch with them emotionally as well as physically.
The problem is, if you had Jack articulate that directly, then it would be way too didactic; it would seem unnatural. But of course, when it remains subtle, people impose their own assumptions about promiscuous men (that they exploit others, etc).
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I think that Fragments is a really good example of a subtle indication that Jack doesn't go for the whole sex toy thing-- and it's a good example of how people don't pick up on that. In that ep, we see Ianto basically offerring himself as Jack's sex toy, the first two times they meet. Jack is a little flattered, but he's essentially not interested. Most people come to the conclusion that by adorning the suit, Ianto became the sort of guy that Jack liked, but that's not actually the case-- Jack rejects him several times while he's wearing the suit, and the change only comes after they laugh together. To me, that said really powerfully that for Jack, that emotional connection is essential. It's not that he needs to be in love with everyone he sleeps with, and he's certainly capable of casual encounters-- it's just that even with the most casual encounter, I think he needs to be in touch with them emotionally as well as physically.
The problem is, if you had Jack articulate that directly, then it would be way too didactic; it would seem unnatural. But of course, when it remains subtle, people impose their own assumptions about promiscuous men (that they exploit others, etc).