I just had a thought -- had Torchwood gone the route of Jack/Gwen, well, wouldn't that *be* the "hetronormative male boss/female subordinate" relationship or the traditional "husband and wife team" relationship? All the problems inherent in Jack/Ianto due to the power imbalance between the two would apply to Jack/Gwen as well, and without the easy out they've been using of making Ianto the sexually aggressive one. Because, you know, make a woman sexually aggressive and she'll be labeled a slut in a blink of the eye. We think they've made a mess of Jack/Ianto, but just imagine all the ways Jack/Gwen could have gone wrong! :D