In the CW episode itself? I wouldn't call that manipulating any more. I think that's where the dam finally breaks and a whole year of unbelievable psychological stress, loneliness, pent-up conflicting emotions and suppressed attraction (and the attraction was there, whether you want to assume they were actually sleeping together ot not) comes pouring out. If he's hurting Jack, it's purely on instinct, there's no calculation, IMO.

I think he'd begun to want (mostly probably on a subconscious level) more from Jack than he was getting, but of course couldn't allow himself to ask for anything more (whether ot not Jack would have been willing to give that) or even admit to himself that - or how much - he wanted it, because that would mean betraying Lisa. To keep this delicate balance intact he focused his anger on Jack, silently blaming him for not knowing, not asking, not helping him. I could imagine that at some point he'd even started playing out the scenario that Jack would ask the right question, and he'd tell him, and Jack would forgive him and fix Lisa, and everything would be all right...